The Anger Iceberg: A Psychodynamic Look at What Lies Beneath Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions. We often think of it as the problem itself—a person who yells, withdraws, criticizes, or lashes out is seen as "an angry person." But from a psychodynamic...
We have all felt it—that sudden, hot surge of anger, or perhaps the slow, simmering resentment that refuses to go away. In our daily lives, anger is often treated as a "problem" to be managed, suppressed, or behaviorally modified. But what if anger isn't just...
In the quiet moments of a conflict, it often feels as though our emotions are driving the bus. When emotional dysregulation takes hold—that moment where the intensity of our feelings overwhelms our ability to think clearly or act in accordance with our values—the impact on...
The Two Versions of "You": Self-as-Content vs. Self-as-Context. In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), one of the most liberating shifts we can make is changing how we view ourselves. Most of us spend our lives fused to a specific "story" about who we are. ACT...
When Anger Is Just the Tip of the Iceberg: Understanding Men’s Emotional Lives Anger is one of the most visible emotions in men—but it’s rarely the whole story. For many men, anger shows up quickly and powerfully: snapping at a partner, feeling constantly irritated, shutting...
Managing Low Self-Worth When You’re Also a Perfectionist If you struggle with both low self-worth and perfectionism, you may feel like you’re constantly chasing a standard you can never quite reach—while quietly believing you’re not enough as you are. It’s an exhausting loop: “If I...