Chronic People Pleasing and Poor Boundaries
Are you someone who believes that your self worth comes from doing for others, so much so that you can’t find time to attend to your own needs? Do you feel devastated if you feel like you let someone down and did not do enough? Do you have a hard time saying no to requests for favors? Do you subject yourself to people you really don’t enjoy being around such as toxic friends, family members or co-workers out of an obligation to be there for them or make them happy?
If you answered yes to any of the following, then you may be a chronic people pleaser. People-pleasing results in anxiety, depression and a loss of self that can be crippling. You are not designed to meet everyone’s needs. In fact, if you are not meeting your own needs first, then you are doing yourself a huge disservice.
As a recovering “people-pleaser,” Paul knows the cost of chronic people pleasing. He has studied some of the most common interventions that can improve boundaries and return your life back to a place of homeostasis and fulfillment.